Monthly Archives: August 2009

family history

we are all a part of each other’s stories - history - we are linked - forever the street where a grandmother recalls walking as a child to visit her own mother in a hat shop which is now a phone store the … Continue reading

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only

we are q’s first parents but we have no way to know if we will be his last, only, favorite, we will be our second child’s second parents is he less because he is our second? are we less because … Continue reading

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the plan (while we wait – day 10)

The Plan: (written last night on train  coming home) try to be on train by 6:30 AM (caught the 7:28) arrive in Grand Central subway to work up the stairs to street stop for coffee or send receptionist to get … Continue reading

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me (still waiting with evelyn but not counting-day nine)

this years christmas tree still up in late january when my mother came on her way to the innauguration ‘what’s this going to be’ she said ‘you’re valentines tree?’ dedicated to evelyn who once said something that reminded me how … Continue reading

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come to the table (day eight of waiting with evelyn)

choices yesterday, 4 years after starting this journey, we recieved the first draft of our homestudy.  we are to look for mistakes (impeccable housekeeping? there’s a mistake if ever there was one – but we’re not correcting that) and then … Continue reading

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for tra (and day seven of waiting with evelyn)

i do not believe god is watching down on me at this very moment i believe in god feel god within me saw god this morning in the streaks of sunlight slanting into my kitchen window in a blessing that … Continue reading

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on a train with q (day four waiting for evelyn)

this is just to note the passing of another day desperate for chocolate and children it’s interesting q was in the city today – at my work place – a financial firm in manhattan – one wouldn’t think of that … Continue reading

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what the heart can bear (and day three of waiting with evelyn)

we are requesting the referral of a child somewhere between 2 and 6 years old (in the ethiopian adoption world this means we will ask for a referral up to age 48 months to ensure that we have less of … Continue reading

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21 (and day two of waiting with evelyn)

21 years ago this evening i walked into a cafe with my best girl Linda and sat down at a table ordered some wine and made the vow “the next good looking man i see i’m asking out” sick of … Continue reading

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for Evelyn

it’s surprising the way the journey has changed me the boundaries are shattered the distance shortened the heart blown open slowly coming to stand by, near, with a friend we have never hugged, touched, kissed hello we are here for … Continue reading

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