Harlem School of the Arts, part three

Harlem School of the Arts January 2010

Scene 1:  A metro train to the city on a cold but sunny autumn day.  It is mid-morning and the train is half as full as the early morning commuter trains but twice as loud.  A few seats away from me there is a group of 8 or so teenage girls and four or five adult women.  The girls are excited to be going into the city.  This is not an every day thing for them.  They kneel on the seats to lean over the top of them and talk, giggle and occasionally scream with laughter at something one of their friends has said.  They are all white, each with long silky hair which they play with as they turn this way and that in their seats.  Their excitement grows as the train curves away from the Hudson River and begins to snake its way through the Bronx.  The conductor announces over the loud speaker “Harlem 125th Street” and as he finishes one of the girls screams and literally jumps down onto the floor.  “Harlem!”  She yells from in between the seats, “Get down!”  Everyone laughs.  She and they are all middle class white girls and women and her exaggerated fear of going through Harlem even on a train is what passes as a joke where they are from.

Scene 2: I am sitting on a grey metal fold out chair in the hallway outside of the second floor classrooms of the music department of the Harlem School of the Arts.  Q is in the classroom directly in front of me and the door is shut.  Here in the music department parents are allowed to sit in class but I do not.  Q is better with me outside of the class and Baba Don’s baritone voice giving instructions to his twelve students makes it difficult to concentrate on my writing.  To my left is a long corridor with several closed doors. A drum beat comes barreling out on and off as an unseen student stops and starts on his way to becoming a musician.  To my right is another long corridor and more music floating down towards me.  The notes of a piano mingles in the air with the beat of the drum.  The pianist is a black teenage girl who is taking private lessons from a white man in his sixties from some Eastern European country.  She begins to play Chopin and I am taken away for several minutes on the waves of the music; sweet, celebratory, melancholy.  In a classroom nearer to me is a teenage boy who is Asian and studying the clarinet.  His teacher is black and is having him go over and over one section of a classic jazz song that I recognize but do not know the name of.  Sitting here on the cold metal chair, with our coats on the floor and my laptop on my lap I am happy.  Truly, without hesitation happy.

I look back at my laptop and start to write.  A couple of minutes later the father and son who arrive at this time every week come around the corner.  Like the majority of the other people here they are black and I’m guessing middle class.  The father is a tall skinny guy with a sympathetic face.  He’s attractive enough to play a tall skinny nice dad on TV.  I’m guessing his son is about 10 years old.  He is tall for his age and very talkative.  He reminds me of Q.  I love this father and son team.  I stop writing to listen to the son chatting on about his week, his music, school, what they are going to do later, what he is practicing on his various instruments (he plays several.)  The son takes private lessons here.  The father helps his son take off his coat and he begins to pile up the coats and sheets of music and bags on an empty chair next to them.  A young music teacher walks down the hall and turns to go down the stairs and the father shouts (to be heard over all the music) a hello to him before he disappears around the corner.

“Who was that?”  The boy asks.

His father tells him and the boy, not turning around shouts in his loudest voice “Hello Mr. ………..”

The young teacher, who by now was half way down the stairs, comes back up.

“Hello!”  He is smiling and he says to the boy  ”You caught me running to another class!”

“You teach advanced guitar right?”  Asks the boy.

“Yes, right.”

“I want to take lessons from you!”

The teacher looks at the father and smiles.

“Well, call me and I’ll look at my calendar and your dad will look at yours and we’ll figure something out.  Probably can’t be until the spring though as I’m pretty booked up and I think I’ve heard that you are too.”

The father laughs quietly.  He’s a soft-spoken guy.  “Yes, we ARE booked up alright.”

“No we’re NOT!”  Laughs the boy.  “We’ve got some time.  Maybe Saturday afternoons, or um…I think Tuesdays.  Can you do Tuesdays; do ya got anything on Tuesday in the afternoon?  Aren’t we free then dad on Tuesdays?!”

The father and the teacher laugh out loud.

“Free?  I don’t know what you mean by free.  You, I suppose are free, but when are you going to do you homework?  And me, no, I’ve got stuff to do.”

The teacher smiles “There’s always stuff to do!”

“Besides,” the father looks at his son, “when are you going to practice from all the classes you’re taking now?”  The boy sits in the chair smiling as the father looks at the teacher “On Saturday mornings he takes guitar at the school for the blind downtown.  Then we come up here for piano lessons.  During the week he has two nights a week of music lessons again at the school.  This boy’s schedule is packed you’re right about that!” the father laughs and he and the teacher smile at each other, the boy too is smiling as he sits in his chair.

“OK then,” the teacher looks down at the boy in the chair who is looking forward but not at the teacher.  The teacher places a hand on the boys shoulder and leans down to him as the boy continues to look forward but leans an ear into the teacher,

“you’ll give me a call and we’ll get you on the calendar, OK?”

“For Tuesday!” the boy responds.

The teacher laughs.  “For sometime in the spring!”

The teacher says his good byes and goes back around the corner to run down the stairs.

“Good-bye!” shouts the boy, “See you on Tuesday!”

The father laughs as he gently helps his son stand up and hands him his walking stick “You don’t give up, do you?”

“No” the boy is smiling, happy, confident, “why should I?”

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The Harlem School of the Arts, part two

The Harlem School of the Arts

That first week the older girls laughed at Q; when he couldn’t get the steps right and another boy trying to be helpful, ran up and took Q’s arms and physically placed them where they should be.  We started class in January, they started in September. September would have been better for dance, but way too over scheduled for us.  So, those 9 and 10-year-old girls laughed making the next two weeks extra difficult getting Q out of the door on Saturday morning.

“No, no, no!” he would say on Saturday morning, “I’m not going!”

“Yes, you are.”

“Why?!”

“Because silly people laughing at you is life, just life.  Whenever you do anything new, or different, or exceptional there are going to be people laughing at you and life is really awful if you spend it trying never to do anything new, or different or exceptional just so others won’t laugh at you.  So get your coat on, we’re going to Harlem.”

As compensation for dragging him to a class he very much didn’t want to take I let him watch nearly three hours of tv on those Saturdays.  We have a one hour of tv a day on the weekends kinda rule.  A kinda rule is one that exists more in our head than in reality given how much we break it.  Actually, let’s call it a self-imposed guideline.  In any case, that 3 hours allowed me to pay bills, do a weeks worth of laundry and pack our bags, in that order.  Life is good.  While he was nervous about dance class, he and I both loved the train ride.   A winter Saturday in the Hudson Valley seems very long if you are a boy who’s parents do not care to spend 12 hours outside on a 25 degree day.  On the way to the train station we stop at my favorite cafe for a cappuccino, and an izzy’s grapefruit drink, scones and a lunch of country ham on white bread for Q and a cheddar and chutney sandwich on whole grain for me.  Once on the train, we settle into our seats, set up our snacks and then looked at each other and sigh.  My sweet, lovely boy is such a delight on the train.  Uninterrupted conversation.  Bliss it was this hour and twenty minutes with my seven-year old son blossoming into selfhood.  There we were squeezed into the train seat with our backpacks, coats, scarves, my laptop and our snacks, without a phone ringing, or the television and laundry and chores beckoning.  Delightful, I tell you, full of big fat delight.  For my Q, my young man can talk and each week I would learn a little more about the person he is.  I would listen to his thoughts about his classmates,

“So…I ended with ‘and no one knows how they got them to stand up right without having any equipment like trucks and cranes (talking about a ‘oral report’ he gave his class about the Easter Island sculptures)  and then Olivia says SHE KNOWS how they were put up there and I say OH?!  OK!  How WERE they put up there and she says ADAM and EVE put them up there!”

“Oh.   So what did you say to Olivia?”

“I said it was HIGHLY UNLIKELY!”

Q is in a public school.  A joint first/second grade class.  He’s in first.  Do you remember first grade?  Was your teacher letting you give oral reports on Easter Island?  All the little hairs go up on the back of my neck when I hear people disparage public school and public school teachers!  We are so blessed to have Mrs. D. as Q’s teacher.  Huzzah for all the great public school teachers out there!  But, I digress…

And as we talked the Hudson River winter scenes passed us by, ice-covered branches, sunlit icy river ice bergs, houses with frosted glass and smoke coming from the chimneys.  At times the scene outside was so beautiful it literally stole my sweet boy’s breath away and he would pause, turn his head to the window and be mesmerized for 30 minutes or more.  At those times, as he stared out the window, I stared at him.  Heaven there in the train, Heaven to be able to watch him staring in wonder at the water, the trees, the mountains.  I drank in the seven-year oldness  of him.

The third week he walked slowly, reluctantly into class.  I watched as he stood at the back of the group.  As i stood there a father and his young son came running down the hall.  The little boy hopped on a chair as his father dropped their bags on the floor and leaned down to take off his son’s boots and help him put on his sneakers.  This sweet little boy and his father with the easy smile and the kind face.  They are hispanic, the son is 6 or seven years old, with brown , straight hair fringing his face.  He has the most beautiful large brown round eyes and his fathers sweet wide smile.  The little boy is smaller than other boys his age, I imagine he must be the smallest boy in his class and his spine is curved rather than straight and sends one shoulder sloping down  and the other going up and to the front of his little body.  He is thin and slight and while I think he and Q are the same age, Q is taller and bigger all around.  The little boy’s shoes are on and is laces tied and he bounds off of the chair as his father steps back to get out of his way.  His son runs into the class with enthusiasm and a smile but as he gets close to the group I notice he hangs in back like Q does and then he shuffles his feet and looks back at his dad.  His father gives him a smile and a hand gesture meant to say ‘go on, go on to the middle, or the front of the group, you’ll be fine.”  My heart aches with the beauty of it.  The rush of life and a father takes time to bring his son to dance class, to smile at and encourage him.

“He’s shy” the father says to me with an accent a smile.

“So’s mine.”

Class has not started yet and I call Q to me.

“What?” He says to me annoyed now because the other children, whose mothers all already stationed in their folding chairs in the hall are not bothering their children.

“See that little boy that just came in?  He’s shy.  Go over and introduce yourself.”

“What?! ” He looks at me pleadingly, “I can’t do that.  I’m shy.”

“I know that’s why I’m telling you to introduce yourself.  When you do, then you’ll have a friend and he’ll have a friend and it will be easer.  Think about his shyness and try to make him feel happy and you’ll see you will probably end up feeling happy too.”

He stared at me and then turned to walk into the studio and slowly walked up to the little boy until his shoulder was near the little boy’s.  I saw him lean over and say something.  No response, the little boy continued to stare at the front of the class as the teacher, a young skinny guy with a fur hat on and central casting hip-hop garb started to set up his i-pod.  He stared at the boy for a couple more seconds and then leaned over again and said something to which the boy looked at him a bit startled and then gave Q a wide beautiful grin and then whispered back to Q.

Not wanting to incur the wrath of the dance police I stepped out of the classroom and shut the door.  The father of the sweet little boy with the curved spine smiled at me and I was for a moment in a perfect place.  A place where hard-working, hard loving parents somehow manage to fit in a hip hop dance class in among everything else.  We found a couple of folding chairs between the diva table and the rolling coat rack.  Children milled around talking about their world with the proper drama.   “Oh My God!!!” was heard more than once and each time I would look up to see two or three children some in leotards some not but all, all of them talking as much with their hands and their arms and their bodies as with their mouths.  This is not so much a wall flower place.  This is tumble-down place with stained ceiling tiles and bathroom stall doors that do not close that is infused with so much beauty, life, loveliness that the heart aches at the fullness of it all.

Think you know Harlem?  Think you know life in the city?  Think you’ve seen it on TV?

I pulled out my laptop as the boy’s father began to talk into his cell phone and look at his watch.  He and I for an hour waiting on our children.  Hip Hop Dance class.  If when I was 12 or 13 years old, that time in my life where I would sit and daydream about my life as an adult; if I could have looked through a window and seen a small vignette of myself at 45 years old, there in Harlem, on an old metal folding chair, what would I have thought?

How lovely that we cannot plan our lives.  How perfect that life just blooms up into being.

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The Harlem School of the Arts, part one

Back in the cold grey heart of winter I told Q he was going to take dance lessons.

He was not happy.  His actual words were; no, I’m not.

For the first three weeks I spent Saturday mornings demanding put on your clothes, pack your backpack, get your coat, hat, gloves, we’re going to harlem.

It was for the dance and for the neighborhood and for the people that taught and volunteered and took classes there.  We are blessed to live in a diverse neighborhood, and his friends are a mix of colors and  cultures,  but having the opportunity, so close to home, to be envelped completely in  an African-American community was too good to be passed up.  And I believe a boy needs to know, at an early age that there is something besides sports.  That the body can move in unison with others as well as in competition.  I thought at his age he would benefit from it, the walking the halls where elders are respected and cultured.  Where reading music and respecting your teacher and the other students was essential.  Where a tall skinny black teenage boy in a black leaotard could jete in the hallway and declare with drama and love and hands flailing in the air “I’m thoroughly exhausted!”  and no one laughs or makes fun of or points at the boy for all they understand.   Life is good.   Dance is good.  Where else can that boy feel so at home in his own skin?

If only i could describe for you the energized, loving, creative, beautiful experience of being in the halls of HSA!  Walking in a few weeks ago there was a tall woman in West African clothing,  up on the low stage in the central rotunda just as you enter the door.  The audience of parents and siblings of students sat in a semi circle and listened to her play drums and explain the importance of them to her and to the culture.  The influence of African drumming in Jazz.

Behind the audience a long line of tables set up and soul food being dished out for the holiday Martin Luther King Day?  Black History month? I don’t remember. I do remember a line of people talking and laughing and scooping up greens and sweet potatoes as the drumbeat bounced all around us.  Behind the tables a glass wall looking into a snow filled courtyard.  Wait, maybe that week was mask making week and the next was soul food and a movie about Martin Luther King.  Another week they showed West Side Story on the movie screen set up on that same stage.  Q walking by with his friends stopped and looked at the screen.  Tough looking, cool looking men were dancing together, snapping their fingers, jumping , singing.  “What’s this movie Mom?”  Proof, men can sing and dance and still look cool, really cool.  You don’t have to be in class to learn things at the Harlem School of the Arts.   Another week a documentary on the large cats of Africa narrated by James Earle Jones played on the screen that magnificent instantly recognizable voice ringing out as children emerged from one classroom and then met their parents or often ran to their next class giggling and calling to their friends before dissapearing into one more magical room.

Each week Q and I walked in and past the center stage and then made a left at the glassed in courtyard.  the Dance wing.  Classroom after classroom of dance; African, modern, tap, ballet and hip hop.   A long line of classrooms with a long line of chairs lined up outside and parents sitting in the narrow crowded hallway with coats and bags and computers and who knows what else that you bring with you when you will be sitting for an hour or two while your child takes a lesson.  Parents are not allowed to leave the building while your child is in class because at HSA if your child doesn’t behave, out of the classroom they go.  The parents sit in a tumble of stuff,  and at a table positioned in the middle of this long line of chair sitting parents with their stuff, sat, each Saturday 3,4 or 5 divas  grannies some of them,  but diva’s too.  Dance grannie divas they are, along with one or two dance teachers and maybe a mother.  All women for whom DANCE is all capitals all the time.  DANCE!  One of them a short woman, skinny but with a roundish oval face, straight brown hair slicked back into a tight, tight, tight bun  pinned low on the back of her neck.  Wearing a black leotard and black  flowing pants and black gym shoes

standing up straight like a tall cattail reed in a pond.  That first week she came marching down the hallway, coming straight for us, me and two other mothers

who were anxiously looking into the classroom at our babies.

‘YOU, mothers, are not allowed to be down here.  There is sign.  You are to sit in the chairs near the lobby.”and as she made this declaration she moved her small body between me and the door which she then shut and i could no longer see my scared and timid son, because over the glass window she had put up brown craft paper.

It was her, I know it was – that taped up that brown paper

“….but, the lady on the phone told me that parents could watch the class…”

“THAT was last week.  Open house.  THIS is a class and there is no watching.  If you watch the class, your child will watch you and not the teacher.  This is the dance teachers hour.  He needs their attention.  And he won’t have it if your in there.”

I wasn’t finished.  The other two mothers had begun to slink away.  Maybe they hadn’t promised their children that they would be there watching for the whole class but i had, I had promised.

“…but upstairs, Baba Don let’s parents sit in on the class….”

The two other mothers turned around in shock when they heard me try one more time, the looks on their faces like those of bystanders who know they are about to witness a terrible collusion, fatal possibly, but are powerless to do anything more than stand and stare horror stricken

The dance general turns back toward me and trying (i’ll give her that) to hide a faint look of disdain she declares

“THAT is Muuuuuuusic!  THIS is DANCE!”

I had been told and so I took my coat and our bags of lunches and my computer and found a folding chair with all the other helpless parents.

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to know happiness

there is a new post on walking to joy

this is the last day of spontaneous delight being public

if you wish to continue reading the public writings please make www.walkingtojoy.wordpress.com your link.

if you wish to be able to read spontaneous delight (which will be a link on walking to joy) when i occasionally publish a private post, please e-mail me and i will send you the password.

peace,

kristine

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there is a new post on walking to joy

spontaneous delight will be going private in a about a week.

please make walking to joy your main link if you wish to continue reading

then send me a note asking for the password if you would like to read the occasional private posts which will be on sponanteousdelight.

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loving kindness

spontaneous delight will be going private in the next few days

if you would like to keep reading please link to www.walkingtojoy.wordpress.com

there is a new post on walking to joy; loving kindness.

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why we have children

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a well loved child

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mimi

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privately – walking to joy

www.walkingtojoy.com

the new blog.

the main one.

the one where i write about flauta and haiti and love and failure and all that stuff that is me

but not the private family stuff

well, actually i never put private family stuff on the web anyway

if you would like to continue reading i would suggest this;

have walking to joy be your main link

it will never have a password or private posting

and my guess is much of my writing will be there.

there will be a link to spontaneous delight on walking to joy

on those occasions where i really do want to share photos

or Q’s thoughts it will be updated on walking to joy that there is a new post on spontaneous delight

spontaneous delight will be password protected and for an intimate few.  if you’re reading this now – in january of 2010

you’re one of the few

that’s the idea anyway

in theory

in reality i’ve never myself been able to keep up with private posts

or blog place switches

so i understand if you do not either

so we may lose each other

however, if you ever come to new york city

or the hudson valley

e-mail me

and we’ll get together

for while i cannot seem to keep track of the passwords of the few blogs i really love

i always have time to drop everything and meet for lunch or coffee or cupcakes or all of the above

ask lori, or christine or rebekah or valarie

all friends i’ve met solely because of spontaneous delight

blog blessings

funny that

hey,

maybe that’s why i can’t find time to keep track of passwords

well,

the long going private post is coming

it is

you know it’s going to be really, really long right?

like days worth

it’s a journey

and

you are so very much part of the telling

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